Adam and Eve were the first couple and the story of their coming together is found in Genesis 2. We are not given a lot of information, but the essential building blocks for marriage and all other relationships are here to be discovered.
Here are five observations from Genesis 2:18-25 that give us the fundamentals of marriage.
1. THE PROBLEM: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him” Gen 2:18-20 (NLT). God is teaching us about our basic need for friendship and companionship. We were not created for isolation and the highest, deepest form of human relationship is marriage. Problem solved! While not everyone will get married, we can all admire and appreciate one of God’s best ideas.
2. THE PARTNER: After seeing and naming millions of species of animals, God brings Eve to Adam and they are introduced. He immediately recognises that this is something new and very special. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” Gen 2:23 (NLT). The search was over, the partner was found.
3. THE PARTING: Moses, who wrote the book of Genesis gives us a necessary ingredient for success. “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother...” Gen 2:24a (NLT). Without a change of allegiance and priority, the marriage cannot thrive. Here is a relationship that requires an exclusive commitment even greater than the commitment to parents. While we still honour our parents after marriage, it is clear that this relationship requires us to leave certain things behind in order to experience something even better!
4. THE PAIRING: “... and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one” Gen 2:24b (NLT). The pairing, or joining together of two lives happens when a covenant is made and vows are spoken. Jesus explained this further when He said, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:9 NKJV). Behind the legal, social, physical and spiritual dimensions of marriage, God provides the glue that gives the strength and resiliency for two to become and remain one.
5. THE PROTECTION: “Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame” (Gen 2:25 NLT). The covering of God’s blessing over a marriage covenant is what provides the safety, security, freedom and joy for both husband and wife to be truly themselves and to fully enjoy all of the benefits of marriage.
We do not live in a marriage-friendly world and all of us have been touched by the pain of divorce either directly or indirectly. Marriage is the one relationship that best expresses God’s plan for us to live in a covenant relationship with Him. We are the bride of Christ so everyone has an exceptional wedding day to look forward to when Jesus returns to claim His bride!
I DO -- BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE GOD’S WAY!